Father forbids lefty's son to write and cause him to suffer from hyperkinetic syndrome with the left hand

Father forbids lefty's son to write and cause him to suffer from hyperkinetic syndrome with the left hand
Father forbids lefty's son to write and cause him to suffer from hyperkinetic syndrome with the left hand
9 -year-old and open and upright to suffer from open and uprightly on the ones serious on hyperkinetic syndrome,even to speak can lisper,3 month ago he is at Shanghai hospital treatment, need to take a large number of medicines to control the condition every day, but accepted psychological consultation open and upright and open and upright and unexpectedly recently, the result makes parents stunned quickly, the result of psychological consultation shows, open and upright and open and upright hyperkinetic syndrome is mainly taking shape the day after tomorrow, origin its lie in open and upright and open and upright go to school, at the class, father to a word that he say: "You are forbidden to write with the left hand! " Originally open and upright to born pieces of lefty while being open and upright, begin to learn to write at the class go to school, the daddy strict with son at that time requires that open and upright and open and upright that must write with the right hand, this is " ordered " It is open and upright and open and upright to writing to cause from the beginning, and even the uncomfortable sense to study, because it is a thing of letting him feel very awkward to let very developed lefty of a right brain must write only with the right hand. "This child has begun the study and life while experiencing in very awkward psychology, the schoolwork burden increases after studying in the primary school, the pressure to this child is larger, because he always wants to learn to write with a hand that oneself is least good at, cause him not to confident in studying still more, then has developed into hyperkinetic syndrome gradually. " Zhejiang Province the intersection of A grade and the intersection of middle and primary schools and psychological Shao, teacher of health education, ascend a height to every parents to call upon, the first step in the home education starts from respecting and understanding children, especially the parents after nowadays new monobasic 80, oneself is the only-child too, it accords with the development new idea and practical good method of era that the education of the child of future generation needs setting up even more, obey because the child's natural instincts, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, lead and inspire with the intelligent language, nowadays keys to success of the home education. Issue of child reason get up parents " most issue of child produce on parents actually mostly, a lot of families come to consult, I consult and coach alone for parents at first, then exchange with child, will find a lot of ' the question children ' in parents' eyes actually have no questions in the course that because and parents communicate, the key lies in whether attitudes toward child of parents and requirement are objective and rational. " Shao ascends a height and emphasizes, parents' education values will influence the child's growth and harmony of family directly. A lot of parents have one regular thinking tendency, oneself how is parents teach not own as a child, how will teach one's own child, once the child has and one's own as a child different behavior nowadays, parents will interfere even criticize instinctively, in fact these are interfered and criticized frequently is surplus, even wrong. Parents need to establish a kind of respect and understand the consciousness of the child, consider the child's feeling more at first, much replacement think, look for some can let the intersection of child and glad way of communication that accept even more in terms of child. Shao ascends a height and says: "Actually there are a lot of such a child as being open and upright and open and upright, in China's traditional education idea, everybody must observe a particular rule, once will be criticized when violating this rule, Chinese it born people of lefties to be too numerous in fact, through the day after tomorrow ' correct ', ' left ' of a lot of people, this relates to educational environment, because of beginning with primary school education, teacher and parents require ceaselessly that must write with the right hand every day each child, then a lot of people so hard as to break over in this way. But abroad, a lot of lefties have grown up in the same left hand and written, such as one bar of horses of US President. This educational difference of idea, lefty well in fact, right brain of them getting developed than left brain only, why parents of us can't comply with natural natural instincts of child, let he with those hand that good at? " Need parents to catch and take precautions against the information that the detail child grows up in the course diligently, it was the parents that need to be careful to catch, the information may be very small, but function is enormous, if you have neglected, may cause the misunderstanding to child, even wrong blame, and it is very unfavorable to misunderstand and blame and undoubtedly grow up healthy and sound to the child these, even become psychological shade all one's life. "Mother is very worried while coming to let me consult, because her 6 -year-old child has always liked quarrelling with people recently, and refuse to mend one's ways despite repeated admonition, the more let him be unable to quarrel with people, the fiercely noisier he is, do not listen to parents at all. I let her change an angle and treat this problem, whether quarrel really? Is your child a bundle of negatives in the quarrel? " Shao ascend a height, say the mother think insight under odd minutes. She has found a phenomenon, the child was not talkative in the past, can not very exchange with people, but since beginning to quarrel,it find by child she it speak than with before many, and language thinking ability is obviously improved, because need to adjust to changed conditions in the course of quarrelling, especially refute a view at once, the child's emergency has expressed the ability of contacts and has been undoubtedly promoted in this quarrel of field rapidly. "Then this mother realizes a method, that is for one child first definitely, can tell him and tell one's own view, it is a very good exchange way to express oneself, can deal with well, can to be more mild and more indirect in next time? Is tone a bit more gentle? Then the child is under the guide of front, it is becoming better and approaching perfection day by day that will regard these as a positive thing, needn't quarrel to learn slowly, express oneself with way to speak carefully, even persuade others. " Trying intelligence for 6 seconds when and the child conflicts, in fact both child and parents have mood, and parents' subjective mood will be more frequently at this time, Shao ascends a height and gives every parents an idea, can try this wonderful method under the case of emergency: Intelligence of 6 seconds. "When parents see one's own very angry thing that children are talking or letting, silent several 1 in the psychology first, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6. To can let you to be again so excited while being calm six second, parents need, control one's own mood at first, then think about that should tell child what is more appropriate at this moment on earth, why the child do so, why oneself is angry to wait a moment " Each of parents' heart has a child, that is their time of childhood oneself, when the child in child's behavior and parents' heart presents difference and contradiction, a lot of parents are apt to lose control of mood, calm intelligence lie in letting you avoid going to extremes for children because of momentary impulse these 6 seconds even wrong criticism and cursing and beating, also let the home education have a more harmonious environment, this can bring a better education atmosphere to children, also can regulate various relations of family better, can be said to be the intelligence secret of the home education.


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